Bucket and Dipper!

I feel that is essay says a lot about a lot of different people. We can't judge others because we don't know what is going on in there lifes.
I found it interesting when it says that world of a child is largely created for him by the adults in his environment. He has little or no control over the kind of input he receives. His self-concept is therefore quite dependent upon how he is treated and what is said and sone to him. This is appropriate necessary for a child. Sad to day, most od us as adults, continue to function in much the same manner as when we were children. We continue to expect others to make us feel good and we blame them for making us feel bad. This is not only inapprpriate for and adult but it is also quite unnecessary.
People today if you told then that yhey were acting like a little child they would take offense to that.
If er understood and applied the idea of the self as a bucket, We might discover that we would be aable to behave quite differently then is usually expected. For example, when an attack is being directed toward us, rather then feeling hurt or counterattacking, we might find that we will be able calmly to veiw that upset person from a non-emotional vantage point. We could then say to ourselves: "Oh, you poor thing! You must have an empty bucket!" This plaves the attecker in an entirely different perspective. It can make us realize that his state of distree has very littlel to do with us, Even though he seemd to think it does. We will be able to realize that he is behaving that way because he feels so bad about thimslef. He bucket must be empty or else he wouldn't be behaving that way. We might even be moved to feel genunie sympaathy for him.
I really want to apply this in to my life. I don't think that my bucker is all that full and I need to woek on that. I wnat to be able to help other people around me feel there buckets as well. As not having a bucket all that full you know how it feels and you don't want to put others in that same place. So it would make us feel better if we were helping others and it would have them feel good as well because there bucket are fuller.

"What Not To Wear"

My scenario was "You are going to attend your favoirt sporting event and you are so excited and you might meet some of the players after the game."

So for class I dressed up that I was going to go to a soccer game. I wore a soccer jersey soccer shorts and my cleets. I was all ready for a game.

The True Story

That was the cutest story ever. I wish that i could be able to have an inpack on someones life like that. I think that is how we are with friends sometimes. We talk to them all the time we ask them for guidance and strength we ask then to help us when we get hurt or when we just have a little question. Sometimes we grow up with this person and then we move way and we try to stay in touch but sometimes its just a little to hard. But when we do have the opportunity to talk to that person it makes you day so much better.
I think that this story helps every one that reads it remember those times that they were so excited when they were younger. Maybe they were little things but they has an impacted on their life. Just as this little boy wanted to talk to information every day just to talk about random thing or just to feel like someone was there it listen to him wine or cry or just ask random questions. Just because that lady was there to talk to him that has an in packed on his like as well has her life. We don't know what is going on with people lives. Just like this lady, that little boy didn't know anything about her. As he found out that she didn't have any children and she looked forward to him calling ever day and helping her feel that she could make a differents in some ones life.
As for all of us we don't know when we can make some ones day that much better. That is why we need to try to be nice to everyone because we don't know that they are going throught at that time in their life. Just a smile or a HI, could make the bigggest differents in some ones day. If we are sensitive to the people around us and we see that some one looks down we should try to go out of our way to make there day that much better like with a smile or ask then how there day is. Maybe someone needs a listening ear. We need to try and give to others as we would like others today for us.

NVC Field Trip Write-Up

Who is included and who is being subtly shut out? How can you tell?

• Three at a table a fourth girl walks up she wishes to join the group but is ignored. Also is not asked to be part of the group.
• Girl walks up to boy and they start to flirt the boys friend becomes excluded through lack of conversations and ey contact.

What does how a person walk tell you & why

• We notice that girls tend to walk in a straight line going back to how they try to appear smaller.
• Guys on the other hand tend to have a swagger to them if they are sonfident and they walk in two lines unlike girls going back to make themselves look bigger.

Who gestures more in conversations? Men? Women? Both? Why?

• From what we have seen women gesture more.
• But both guys and girls tenf to fidget with stuff in their hands... Hats, Ipod, Cellphone

What are male flirting behaviors? How can you tell?

• Male flirting behavior: Adjusts hats, leans over her, eye contact, humor
• How can you not tell. Flirting is something that is very blunt and can be seen by all. We believe that when you are the one that is flirting you do not recognize that you are doing it, but when you are the one observing you can tell that they are flirting.

Are there some flirting behaviors that are noth male and female?

• Smiling
• Close proximity
• Touch

Who uses more space?

• MEN

Whar can you tell abaout a person by their physical appearence? By what they carry or bring with them?

• We think that is has to do with more confidence and status. What a person wears or has can change our perception of them.

How do humans show "territoriality?"

• Physical contact and touch. We observed a guy that didn't let go of a girl until she moved out of arms reach, He was showing territiriality.
• Also coats on chairs, laptops on tables and holding hands.

What does that way a person sit tell you about how they feel?

• It tells you wheter they are happy
• Sad
• Frustrated
• Angrey
• Also it can express a state of being such as confident
• Shy
• Or in pain

What gestures do people use in conversations, & why do they use them?

• Using have emphasize
• Head wobble ( yes I'm listening)
• Touching ones own head shows confusin or nervousness

Flirting behaviors-- How can you tell someone is flirting by their eye behavior?

• Yes you can
• Not maintaining wyw contact is a sign of being uninterested.

What are female flirting behaviors? How can you tell?

• Girls are very touchy
• They laugh even when its dumb.
• (Hey check out my blue polo and black hat.)
• Teasing

Who uses more ehy contact? (men, women, both)

• We have observed that men use more wyw contcat espesially in flirting.

And Nothing Shall Offend Them

I really like this talk. It is so true in the church that so many people are offended and stop going to church. When I was on my mission I thought that people were just looking for reasons no to come to chirch and the easiest excuse was to just say that I was offended. I like how he says that you and I have the power to act and to choose how we will respond to an offensive or hurtful situation. Brigham Young, on the other hand, was serverly and publicly rebuked by the Prophet Joseph Smith, but he chose not to take offense. Brigham Young could have left the church because he was offended by Joseph Smith but he didn't. He took the criticism and learned from it. If Brigham Young would have left the church history wouldn't be the same today. Just like our lives we stop going to church because we are offended what is going to happen to our children and their children? Understanding that the church is a learning laboratory helps us to prepare for an inevitable reality. In someway and at some time, Someone is this church will so or say something that could be considered offensive. Such an event will surely happen to each and every one of us-and it certainly will occur more than once. Though people may not intend to injure or offend us, they nonethelesscan be inconsiderate and tactless. The Savior is the greatest example of how we should respond to porentially offensive events or situations. Understanding that the church is a learning laboratory helps us to prepare for an inevitable reality. in some way and at some time, someone in this chirch will so or say somthing that could be considered offensive. Sich an event will surely happen to each and every one of us-- and it certainly will occur more than once. Though people may not intend to injure or offend us, they nonetheless can be inconiderate and tactless. You and I cannot control the intentions or behavior of other people. However, we do determine how we will act. Please rememerb that you and I are agents endowed with moral agency, and we can choose not to be offended. These are the things that we need to do in our life. There are things that we can get offended every day that we go to church. If we are going with the best out look it doesn't matter what any one does or says. Life would be a lot better if people were nice and watched what they said but we can't take that against the church. The church is perfect not the members. My husband and I could stop going to church because we don't feel apart of our ward or because our home and visting teachers don't come and visit us. But we go to church every sunday because we know that it is what we need to do. Going to church is the only way that I feel complete. I think that if people don't go to church and say that they were offended they were just looking for a reason not to go to church.

The Doer of our Deeds

I have really enjoyed reading this tlak by M. Catherint Thomas. There were alot of thoughts and scriptures that hit home to me in my life right now. I thought that I would share the quotes that stood out to me and why.
"Christ says" I am the true light that is in you, and that you are in me; otherwide ye could not abound" (D&C 88:50). Chrsit is the life and the light of every person (John 1:4, 9). King Benjamin teaches similarly that God perserves us from day to day, lending is breath, that all we have and are come frimm him" (see Mosiah 4:21)." I love this because it reminds me that I need to strengthen that faith in my Heavenly Father and trust in him to help me with things and not try to do then by myself. We are not here to struggle and find things difficult. With the lords help all things are possible.
"His sin of ignorance or choise produce bitterness to suffer-- but usually he doesn't know what the real sourse of his unhappiness is. He thinks it has something to so with the pwoplw around him, or he things ir has to do with his circumatances. But Elder Neal A. Maxwell observes: "The heaviest load we feel is often from the weight of our unkept promises and our unresolved sins which press down relentlessly upon us." But the pursuit of selff-seteem with not solve the problems of the slef that is in conflict because sin. It will not even solve the problems of those who suffer from others sins against them." I love how it basically says that if we have low-self-esteem it is because we are living a sinful life that we need to repent. Feeling dirty or unclean can leave us feeling like that, because as we are sinning the sprit can't be with us. So therefore we feel alone and helpless.
"We will never be happy naymore just by being ourrselves or living our own lives. We will not be satisfied until we have surrrendered our lives into the arms of the loving Christ, and intol He has become the doer of all our deeds and he has become the speaker of all our words. MOrmon describes Church members who, waxing "stronger and stonger in their humility, and firmer and firmer in the faith of christ ," are filled with joy and consolation." Can I say Amen! That is so true, everythings about it. As we wax stronger in our humility and firmer and firmer in the faith of christ we will have joy and life, we will not feel a lone or abandoned.
"I would that ye should remember, and always retain in remembrance, the greatness of God, and your own nothingness, and his goodness and long-suffering towards you...... If ye do this yw shall always rejoice, and be filled with the love of god, and always retain a remission of your sins. ( Mosiah 4: 11-12) What does the lord mean by the nothingness od man? We recoil at nothingness because we try so hard to overcome our feelings of unimportance. Yea, I know that I am nothing; as to my strength I am weak; therefore I will not boast of myself, but I will boast of my god, for in his strength I can do all things. (Alma 26:11-12)" These are some of my favorite quotes. I loved them so much on the mission. We are absolutely nothing with out our Heavenly Father. We wouldn't be here. We wouldn't have the great lives without him. we cannot boast about our self's, we cannot be like poor pitty me when we are not doing the things that our Heanevnly fahter would want or lives in harmony with his teaching. We need to be grateful for the things that he gives to us.
" One who practices faith in the Lord Jesus Chrsit will find relief from the stresses and anxieties of the pursuit of self-esteem." When we have faith in our heavenly father nothing matters in the world the earht could be coming down on us but we just need to take it to him in prayer and he will help us.

Ann Maries Harris Write Up

I loved the essay by Ann Marie Harris, it really caught my attention, and I knew that I was going to get out of it. Sister Harris states, "The learning I am desribing reaches far beyond mere cognitive comprehension and the retaining and recalling of information. The type of learning about which I am speaking causes us to put off the matural man." I life how she goes on to talk about Elder Bednars talk and explains what we as students need to do to be good learners but as well the teachers. As we as students try to implement these things in are everyday lives I feel that we all can so a lot better inout class's.
I like how Sister Harris talks to the teachers and explains what there roll is as well. "We, as teachers, must help students see patterns for success and we must require of them all that they can give. They have much potentail and we have the opportunity to help them develop that innate desire to grow and excel, which has in many cases, been sadly neglected in the secondary schools." I love it when I have teachers that are there to help you understand what they are teaching not just there to teach.
I really liked Pres. Clarks talk. I completely atree with him when he says " personal and collective need for revalation and for the powers of heaven in the great work that lies beforeus. Every one as a different way of learning and studding as we have the sprit with ehrn we are in class and as we are studding we will be able to rememeber what we have learned in our class's. When we study with the spirt we will remember the things that we ahve learned. I also like when Pres. Clark said " the command to draw near unto me is a command to come unto Chrsit, to reach out to Him in our prayers in out thoughts and in our lives. As we so this we will heve the spirt to be with us.
As in these scriptures Nephi was commanded to build the ship. Nephi did was he was asked, He would ask God questions on where to find things that he could build the ship, and as Nephi would ask GOd how to make the things that Nephi needed God would tell him. Just as for us as we ask God for things he will be right there to help us.
As in all of these talks and in the scriptures we are taught that we need to folloe what God has for us and he will show the way. As we put god first in are lifes's asking for his help he will always be there for us. We cannot rely on out self's, when hard things come our way and we are stubborn about them and say that we can so them by our selfs, God will left us and watch us fall on our face's. As with being prepared for class's and for our test if we ask our Heavenly Father to help us when we go to class to help us understan the things that are being taught he will. As we ask our Heavenly Father to help us when we are studding for our class's he will be there to help us. He is always just waiting for us to ask and he will come running to us.